Adoring Child

Adoring Child
by : Kadry Bonjoly

Adoring child is an attitude that parents always give anything what their child wants , and never think what the effect because of that. For example , a father do not give permissionto his son to go , then it makes the children cry or whine with it , that is allowed to go . To stop the children crying , a father relented and let his son to go. The behavior like that referred to adoring child , and parent attitudes inconsistent with the order only for make their children donot cry or whine including attitude adoring child. In islam we know that, every parents have to give attention to their child, but don’t ever do it over !!. because  something that we do with word “over” will be outcomes something bad. Talk about adoring child, Rasulullah SAW ever said :

"Send your children to pray at the time she was seven years old, and beat them when they was ten and separate bed  between them (it’s mean between boys and girls)". (HR. Abu Daud).

From the hadits above we know that a parents can not adore their child. Adoring child same with kill personality each child, as we know because of it, a child can be a lazy one, who do not understand to do something. 

Attitude we've shown it appears profitable for the child until the child would continue to repeat the behavior. Someday when they expects something from her parents , they will cry , because crying regarded as a powerful tool to obtain what he/she wants . it happens ussually on parents who has child one or two only. So, if we compare with another parents who has many child, they tend avoid adoring child. Actually every parents has different way to show their love for her/his child. But sometime some parent choosed a wrong way with adoring child. As we know it’s not good for children’s life.

From the explanation above we Can conclude that adoring child is a child whose life was spoiled always depend on others, because a love that given by parents  was too great , so that love becomes excessive the effect. The more a parent adore they child, the more the child got bad effect.